A huge part of my work with social media clients is to coach them through the process of stepping into their power and owning their voice and story. I believe that stories are the most powerful form of communication and when I pitched myself to one of my favourite podcasts, there was no doubt that I wanted to talk about story-telling.
The pitch was successful (yay!) but what happened next was a little unexpected. I started to feel anxious about sharing my story. I couldn’t even look at the interview scheduled in my diary without feeling a wave of panic and nausea. While showing up online and sharing my story through words had never been a biggie, the idea of jumping onto a call and actually speaking my truth scared the shit out of me!
So instead of letting the (very ironic) fear of telling my story engulf me, I turned to my community of goddess sisters and asked for their advice. I was so blown away by their nuggets of wisdom that I knew I had to combine their tips with my own experience and bring you a soulful guide for sharing your story. So here goes!
Be moved by your message
I was flicking through old diaries when I came across this quote from Gabby Bernstein ‘Be moved by your message and your message will move others’. I believe that our stories are so much bigger than what we are and that they don’t always need to be about us. I don’t mean that you should be telling a story about someone else, I mean that you are simply a vessel for your story and it isn’t all about you.
We live in a society that is obsessed with the individual and we put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect. So what if I told you, nobody is really thinking about you anyway! Even when listening to you speak, your listeners are likely thinking about how your stories relate to them and their life. Suddenly your story is less about you and more about the message. Isn’t that a humbling thought?
If that doesn’t inspire you then go back to basics and think about your why. Why are you in business and what are you hoping to achieve? If you’re anything like me then this message is so much bigger than you and will guide you to step out of fear and toward love.
Trust in the universe
If there is anything that I know for sure, it is that the universe has a bigger plan for us. I don’t think it was any coincidence that I pitched myself for an interview about story-telling and was so plagued by feelings of fear and unworthiness. One of my biggest mantras in business is that ‘you teach what you most need to learn’ and it’s actually hilarious how much this played out in my situation. I also believe that the dreams that we declare to the universe are there to challenge us. So when I made surrender my word for the year, I was actually asking the universe to test me on this. This might sound a little woo-woo to you but the practical tip in all of this is to have faith that everything will be okay.
If you’re really afraid of the outcome that sharing your story will have then let’s play the ‘worst case scenario’ game. I promise it’s super easy! All you have to do is get out a pen and paper and write down all of the worst case scenarios that could come from an activity that you are fearing. In this case – telling your story. I highly suggest doing this with pen and paper because when you get a thought out of your head and into writing, it doesn’t feel so scary anymore. You’ll also realise the worst case scenario of the action isn’t as bad as what you thought it was and your mind was just playing tricks on you. Don’t worry, we all feel doubt! But being able to step through that and still stand up and speak our truth – that is real faith!
Fraudy feelings might exist in our minds but that doesn’t mean that they can’t affect the body. I know this because an hour before my interview, my heart was racing and my hands were shaking. So here are some practical tips for grounding yourself and dealing with all the fun symptoms that come with fear.
Journaling was my best friend on the day of the interview. I started by getting clear on my intention for the interview so that I could use it as an anchor. Then I wrote down my fears about the interview and got them out of my head and onto paper where I could properly acknowledge them. After that, I started journaling some stories that I knew I could share. These weren’t notes for my interview but they did help to assure me that I had something valid to say and that I wouldn’t be lost for words. After a journaling session, I did a chakra meditation and diffused lavender to help slow my heart rate.
The trick is to do the things that will calm you down and bring you back to centre. These might be different for you and I’d highly recommend experimenting and discovering a ritual that works perfectly for you. I plan on using my ritual every single time before a big interview or even a coaching session!
I hope that these tips have inspired you to step into your power and let go of the fear of sharing your story. And if you are curious, my podcast interview ended up being so much fun and I had a blast. You can listen to it here for more tips on sharing your story or download the episode from your fave podcast app!